Stop settling for safe…get comfortable with being uncomfortable & live your best life.

New Year’s Resolution 2015, New Year’s Resolution 2016, New Year’s Resolution 2017…ugh! As I look back, like so many of you, I have been making New Year’s Resolutions for most of my life…we make them, break them, just to make them again. I found this to be tiring, not to mention oh so discouraging.

So in 2018, I thought of doing something different. I wanted to know what would happen if I stop settling for “safe” and step out of my comfort zone… in every area of my life. 

You can agree that we all like to be in our comfort zone. Who likes to be in an uncomfortable place?

Last year, I read Sarah Jakes Roberts “Don’t settle for safe” and it definitely motivated me to evaluate my life and what I wanted going forward. Well it is now eight months into 2018, and let me tell you, stepping out of my comfort zone has been the most difficult yet, most liberating thing I have ever done.  Already, I am learning so much and I love the new woman I am becoming.

Being uncomfortable is intimidating and sometimes down right scary.  Most people will choose being comfortable over being uncomfortable every single time. However, what we all know and sometimes would like to forget is that there is growth in being uncomfortable. I definitely want to grow…don’t you?

At 24, I have managed to accomplish so much! Yet, there is so much more that I want to achieve. I finished my Masters degree 3 years ago and that coupled with two bad break-ups left a lot of room for complacency…I found myself safe and stuck in my comfort zone.

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As I look back, I can see now that the journey of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable really started last year.

In February 2017, I took my first solo trip. Let’s call it my “Eat, Pray, Love” journey. Six weeks in Thailand & India was enough time for me to get use to being uncomfortable (very uncomfortable), but the growth I experienced is undeniable. (I will talk more about that trip in a future post)

With a few hits and misses, I managed to make it through 2017 with a lot of accidental, uncomfortable moments. However, I still had a desire to know what would happen if I intentionally put myself in uncomfortable positions for the sake of growth.

That brings us to 2018, where my theme is, “Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable”. So far I have taken lots of opportunities. Opportunity to get uncomfortable at my job, church, the gym (still giving my trainer the side eye for all the soreness), in my social life and in my love life. The results have been amazing. I have become bolder, stronger, more adventurous, I’ve met new people, started this blog, made the decision to rock my natural hair (we’ll talk more about that later), made incredible friends, began to love myself more and…I even met a wonderful new guy (a cherry on top).

Now look at me! I have made it to August 2018 being comfortable in many uncomfortable situations. I’m excited to see how much I have grown. And, I have no doubt that I will grow even more by to stepping out of my comfort zone.

Here are a few tips if you would like to join me in getting comfortable with being uncomfortable:

  • Say NO to the usual – make an effort to do something different.
  • Say yes, even if it scares you – remember stepping out of your comfort zone will not be easy but it will totally be worth it.
  • Make a list of the areas where you would like to see self-growth – I’m a huge advocate for writing things down, it helps you to visualize and remember the vision when you forget, become discouraged or get a little hardheaded…like me.
  • Have an accountability partner – someone who you trust who will remind you what you are trying to accomplish this year.
  • Keep a journal – I love to look back to see where I started and how far I’ve come – write everything down, happy, sad, confused, – Your journal is a safe space.
  • Set some short term goals – For example, in the next month, challenge yourself to attend 2-3 social events – this will allow you to meet new people. Look at what’s going on in your city, you might be surprised at all the things you can do.
  • Become fearless – don’t let your fear of the unknown hold you back – being fearless does not stop you from being afraid it just means that you will do it whether you are afraid or not.
  • Don’t settle for safe! – whether it’s spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally, socially or personally. Stop settling, you are so much better than that!

Remember the best things come to those who have faith, believe in themselves and take action!

I would love to hear how you plan on getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. You can comment below or send an email to info@blackbeautifulandblessed.com

10 thoughts on “Stop settling for safe…get comfortable with being uncomfortable & live your best life.

  1. Jahmal (Loving Brother) August 27, 2018 — 11:27 am

    Love It!! I have been hearing that phrase… get comfortable with being uncomfortable for some time now but have never took out the time to read about it!! I have already mentally jotted down a few points for take away… and I will be definitely starting a journal… been wanting to for some time now, but reading this has gave me all the motivation that I needed!! I am most definitely looking forward for more posts!

    1. I’m glad you love the post!
      Journaling is definitely a must. It really helps to put things in perspective and what I love about journals is the ability to see how far I have come. I love picking up an old journal and reading a couple pages and remembering exactly where I was, what I went through and how I made it through! Let me know how you get on with your journaling!

  2. This was wonderfully written and so motivating!!! I love “say yes even if it scares you” AND the journaling is a must! You’ve encouraged me to set some short term goals for myself now ! Also, soooo happy for all your new journeys (yay to natural hair which is ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS and the trainer- you look so fit and in shape ) !!! Go girl !! Can’t wait to read the next post !!

    1. Im glad you enjoyed the post and thank you for the compliments and kind words! Saying yes through your fear is definitely a challenge but it is totally worth it. I cant imagine how many opportunities I would have missed out on if I did not say yes through my fear. I have grown so much thanks to this method. If you would like notifications for the next post be sure to subscribe or follow me on FB or IG for the latest.

  3. This is amazing inspirational to others to just do it with out regrets and grow,I like the part about having an accountability partner,keeping it REAL! God’s Blessings to you

  4. I agree with this fully. Stepping out of your comfort zone is important, if you never try something new you will never know what you can and cannot do. For me, just starting my blog was big step, I really never thought I had much of a voice and starting a blog and writing has really allowed me to express myself. Thanks for sharing this piece 🙂

    1. Hey Celly

      I love that you were able to step out of your comfort zone and grow! The world needs your voice. Never be afraid to express yourself!

      1. Thank you 🙂 you are a great inspiration 🙂

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